“Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you’re gonna get.”
Famously and with surprising depth, Forrest Gump’s quote explains that life truly is a mystery. With each new decision, thought or action, we don’t know what we’re going to experience until we sink our teeth into it. But we can equip ourselves with tools to learn how to navigate muddy waters.
We all experience times in our life of trials and tribulations. Difficulty and joy. Heartache and pleasure. And it’s during colorful emotions and confusing times that our hearts will experience the feeling of contraction.
Life is cyclical. We all experience ups, downs and everything in between. How we respond to difficult times develops our character, which is what molds us further into who we become.
But what happens if we are terrified to make decisions?
Or if we allow others to make decisions for us?
We all want what’s best for our loved ones. Mothers want to protect their children, spouses want to help their partners, siblings look out for one another and even good friends have your back. But sometimes this line can be crossed or become blurry. Things can occur where we find ourselves in situations where we need to come to the rescue of others.
The question is when is this okay, when do we cross the line to becoming an enabler and how do we know when to say enough is enough - to finally save ourselves, and the other from this trap.
“Remember that the only constant in life is change” – Buddha.
It seems today everyone is telling us to embrace change and that it’ll be the best thing that ever happened to us. That the most incredible opportunities come about from hardship, in the wake of change.
And that we need to get comfortable with being uncomfortable to really evolve.
The other day, I was at a family gathering and I noticed myself starting to get very stressed out. I needed air. When I removed myself from the situation, my cousin approached me and asked what I was so anxious and upset about. I felt the room spinning and my heart racing, but when I opened my mouth to answer, nothing came out. I didn’t have
According to Harvard Psychologist, Robert Kegan, the only way to truly experience the highest levels of transformation and “conscious evolution” is to detach from the need for specific outcomes.
Many of us are led by ego, the social mask which we wear for the world, but our soul forever whispers, hoping we’ll listen and go within. While we may think the ego protects us, it merely acts as a barrier, getting in the way of our personal truth. Our biggest barrier to success in life is the ego, created based on the constructs of our upbringing, the society we were raised…