While it was exciting for us to watch Bella choose between Team Edward or Team Jacob, being with a vampire in real life sucks.
You know those days when your head finally hits the pillow and you crash out of sheer exhaustion, feeling like your lifeforce was drained from you entirely?
Maybe it was your work, your friends or even worse, your intimate partner who contributed to you feeling this way.
Whoever the culprit, the truth is, you are the common denominator, so let’s take a look at what it says about your own healing, and how to step away from the vampires in your life.
WHAT ARE “VAMPIRIC RELATIONSHIPS”
”Vampiric relationships” occur when you choose (subconsciously or consciously) to get involved emotionally, physically or energetically with someone for the sake of protecting your own wounds, allowing your partner to connect with you by stealing your energy versus reciprocating energy.
While vampires suck blood, in vampiric relationships you’re sucked dry of your energy – mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. Unlike mythical vampires who lurk in the shadows to attack unsuspecting victims, we often invite modern-day energy vampires into our lives, our homes and worst of all, our hearts.
When you compromise yourself in relationship it can lead to toxic levels of vampirism. It often leads us down of path of suffering, as we tend to repeat the same patterns, feeding off our own wounding, until we learn how to break free.
Warning…you may not want to admit it, but when you can find the courage to do so, the truth will set you free.
There are five types of vampiric relationships that are deemed to slay even the strongest warrior.
1. SEXUAL VAMPIRISM
Let’s start with the juicy stuff! Intimate partnerships can be the most rewarding, exposing and yet humbling relationships we have. Being involved with (or being) a vampire in these relationships is incredibly raw. When someone takes your energy through sexual needs or desires and robs more than they can return, your sexual interaction you may feel really drained, sad, angry, or resentful.
With the intensity of intimacy, our partner ’s psychic energy can lure you into craving more, and needing them by using their own sexual energy to hook you in.
Once you have sex with someone, an energy cord gets created and if the intimacy comes from a place of disempowerment, it’s likely to cause crisis instead of reward peace.
Your sexual energy is your vital life force – respect and protect it.
2. THE RESCUER
Somehow you’ve become the mother, father, caretaker, giver, healer, gatekeeper, and play God in this dynamic. Tisk, tisk!
Your belief that this poor wounded soul needs help and you are the only person that understands, giving you a sense of worth and responsibility.
Acting as their counselor every time you connect, they (sometimes) respond with a “thank you” and walk away without reciprocation in honouring your own well being.
Feeling drained, tired and sometimes angry, you often feel guilty and useless if you don’t tend to their needs immediately.
The need to feel wanted and loved is an innate trait in all of us, but sacrificing yourself to “earn” that love is feeding your own wounding has the opposite effect you’re trying to achieve.
3. PETER PAN SYNDROME
When playing rescuer, you may also be experiencing Peter Pan syndrome with your partner.
Exactly like it sounds, Peter Pan Syndrome is the inability to grow up and start adulting. With more women accepting leadership roles and the shifts our society has undergone, we see more men being Peter Pan, leaving women with the feeling they need to play the role of “responsible Wendy”.
Sometimes acting like teenagers, they crave being around younger men or women so that they deflect the truth of reaching adulthood. They lack self confidence and surround themselves with so much distraction or attention so they never feel alone.
The downfall of being with this person is that since this person isn’t ready to be committed in his Manhood or her Womanhood they will create a self-sabotage reaction and this is where you energetically feel drained because you were attached to seeing this person change, growing into your ideal match.
4. DRAMATIC PREDATOR
Ahhh…you’re calm and at peace, then all of a sudden a vicious predator called drama sneaks up when least expected, peers into your brain, and attacks your psyche – leaving you confused, wondering why you’re so triggered from the comment your partner just made.
You may try to have a heart-to-heart adult conversation, but somehow you end up in an overly dramatic argument where you’re mentally confused because your partner’s heart is shut down, ending with you creating the conclusion that something is wrong with you.
This psychological abuse. When you allow someone to attack your emotions psychologically it can be worse than physical abuse because there isn’t physical validation that something is off. Instead you’re having to use your intuition and gut instincts to validate your truth: your boundaries have been crossed.
5. TIME HOARDER
With your partner’s ‘charming’ demeanor, you may feel guilty if you don’t spend time with them.
Instead of stating what’s true for you, you defer power by sacrificing your own time and energy to keep them happy.
Odds are you’ll start to feel resentful because you’ve chosen to spend your sacred time and energy to be with this person and yet their focus is not on you. Instead they’re distracted by their phone, errands, work, and chatting with other people while you are with them.
It may feel like the whole world revolves around this person, and it probably does based on your dynamic – you made it that way.. But your own wounding and fear of abandonment, loneliness or rejection puts your precious time and energy at risk.
SO I’M WITH A VAMPIRE, NOW WHAT?
Once you recognize these top major energy dynamics in your relationships, the first step to gaining your power back is being aware of the toxic pattern.
Looking at your own wounding, you can begin to identify why you’ve attracted these energy dynamics. They may have an important lesson to teach you.
Bringing an awareness to your own wounds allows healing to happen, creating a shift to your energy field, allowing you to take back control.
The more you connect to your truth, the more tapped in you are to your power that prevents you from being involved in vampiric relationships. By creating healthy boundaries and discernment. you’re telling the universe you’re making a conscious choice to rid your life of vampires, putting your soul’s desires front and center.
Honour, respect and love yourself enough and the vampires will be repelled, leaving you with the ability to attract your vibrational match.