We all want what’s best for our loved ones. Mothers want to protect their children, spouses want to help their partners, siblings look out for one another and even good friends have your back. But sometimes this line can be crossed or become blurry. Things can occur where we find ourselves in situations where we need to come to the rescue of others.

The question is when is this okay, when do we cross the line to becoming an enabler and how do we know when to say enough is enough - to finally save ourselves, and the other from this trap.

Being left with the regrettable feeling of “I could’ve done more” is not where we like to find ourselves, but I know I’m not alone when I say I’ve been there, multiple times, and that’s okay because I recognize it and I’m working on it.

Sometimes I’ve been physically too far away to help as much as I would’ve liked, other times I’ve had to stop myself from falling into the eventually enabling “rescuer” mode and other times I’ve contributed to the issue they need rescuing from (hey, none of us are perfect!).